Romance

I am now "officially" considered a senior. A "young" senior to be sure, but certainly closer to seniordom than youth. Like you, I feel no older than 35 most days. Sometimes I feel much, much older. 

So, now that you are a senior dating takes on a special appeal. So let's look at a few ways that dating is better now than ever before!

1) FREEDOM- Finally! No children, no job, and no restrictions on what you want to do and when you want to do it. Time to use to do those things you never got a chance to do when you were younger. While you may not have all the energy you had in your 20's, you can still have adventures and be of service to your family, church and community.

2) Knowledge- Which brings us to #2. You possess a wealth of knowledge. Your knowledge encompasses a variety of interests, talents and topics. When you can combine the best use of both work and personal skills, you will find out that you still have much to offer and much that is needed.

3) Wisdom-The wise use of your talents and appreciation of both yourself and others. My grandpa used to tell us that you don't get old being stupid. Wisdom is to know this for fact, but not have to flaunt all you know to make yourself look good.

4) Self Confidence- Self confidence is sexy! Yes, you are still all of that. What is different now is that instead of getting someone's attention in the first 20 seconds, it may take a minute or two. But we don't want that shallow person anyway, do we?

5) Humor- By now, you should have cultivated and grown your sense of humor. Getting older is FUNNY! If you cannot laugh at yourself, you won't be good company for anyone! Laughter is important and the older you get, the more you can appreciate a good laugh!

6) Health- While you health may not be perfect, if you are still standing, breathing and striving to enjoy your life, your health plays an important part in how you feel and look. Strive to be healthy, to eat better foods, and get enough rest and water. Avoid all that unnecessary sugar and your body will remain your friend.

7) Self Awareness- Self Knowledge: Knowing your own self is one of the most important character traits you can have. By choosing to learn more about you, what makes you happy or sad, you can embrace yourself fully. This self-knowledge allows you to make wiser choices in a mate. You no longer need to appease or impress others. You know what you want and are willing to wait for that right person to show up in your life.

8) Gratitude- You appreciate yourself, your family, your community and your God. Your actions show your appreciation. Gratitude is a gift your give both yourself and others. Thank you!

9) Conversation- Just talking and being able to HOLD a conversation is a crucial relationship skill. It is both learned and innate, but as you age, you become less self conscious, opening the way to free flowing conversations. Being able to both talk and listen adds a depth to relationships that is priceless.

10) Satisfaction! Finally you are able to just be whether alone or in a relationship. You no longer need another to make you feel complete. You KNOW you are complete within yourself. Your established relationship with yourself shows the path to being satisfied in the here and now.

These are a few of the musings I have had thinking about what wonderful gifts and character "senior" daters bring to a relationship. Connecting with another senior or being bold and going younger it's all about what YOU feel comfortable with.

Since so many of us "feel" younger in our minds, a happy medium would be to date both younger, older and the same age. Find your own groove and establish your OWN rules.

Life is a song- Are you singing yet?

Michelle D. Smith is a visionary dedicated to bringing out the best in people. She has several websites dedicated to those single and searching for spiritual growth AND a wonderful relationship. You can have BOTH!! Her main focus is on being the best YOU possible and attracting your perfect partner. When you are ready to find your someone special, please checkout my websites. Remember, Like attracts Like. You WANT to be the best you possible!