When you are searching for your Mr. Right, I want you to pay close attention to his laugh. It may seem odd for me to say that, but you can tell a lot about a man by his laugh. Real laughter is uncontrollable. For just a moment something strikes us as funny and the sound of laughter pours forth spontaneously and without any real control on our part. It bubbles up and gives away the secret part of us that thinks the event or situation presented is funny. Laughter can be faked, but that’s part of what I want you to analyze when you are listening to his laughter.
First of all, is his laughter real or fake? You can always tell when someone has one of those completely goofy laughs that nobody in their right mind would choose to have; those silly sounding laughs that cause everyone else to laugh too. You have also heard those completely fake laughs that sound like a bad actor in a Dudley DoRight play! Most people have fairly normal sounding laughs and they are spontaneous. If the guy you are interested in fakes his laugh occasionally to laugh at a small child’s attempt to tell a joke; that is okay. But, if he fakes his laugh on a regular basis, I would seriously question his overall ability to present his authentic self to the world. You may or may not feel like analyzing why he is faking it, but it is important to note if he is presenting a false joviality to the world on a regular basis.
Does he laugh easily? I have met a few men who had serious anger and violence issues. They do NOT laugh easily. Also, guys going through depression and other darker emotions obviously are not going to laugh as easily as someone who is naturally happy and at peace with his life. The brooding silent type may seem sexy for a while, but in the long run, you are going to want to have some lightness and fun in your life too. It gets to be a real bore to hang out with someone who is always incredibly serious and entertaining darker thoughts.
Does he laugh at people or with people? Nobody likes to be made fun of, but this has more to do with what your man finds as funny. Does he find humor in ridiculing others? Does he laugh at others because everyone is incredibly foolish or stupid in his eyes? Is he constantly critiquing people looking for a reason to laugh at them? It does not matter how witty or funny his presentation, it is not a good sign if your man takes his personal pleasure in laughing at others. You also do not want someone who constantly makes himself the butt of all jokes either. I have always found an underlying self-
Does the sound of his laughter fill you with joy? Listen to the actual sound of his laughter. Does the sound make your heart go pitter-
Do you laugh at the same things? Yes, you want to be your own person with your own interests and your own unique sense of self, but you also want to share good times with your partner. You need to pick someone who has a similar sense of humor to your own. There is nothing worse then having your partner roll their eyes like you are so uncool every time you burst out laughing. What determines a person’s sense of humor is wide and varied, including upbringing and level of education. If you share the same overall sense of humor, chances are that you are fairly compatible in those areas. You are somewhat on the same wavelength.
Do you laugh at the same time? You want to pretty much agree on when is the proper time and place for goofing around and making each other laugh. If he likes to crack jokes and laugh a lot during foreplay and you find it to be a total turn off, then you are going to have problems. If he keeps laughing at your girlfriends when you are trying to have a serious conversation, then you re not going to get along so well. This also works in the other direction. If you are the one who is constantly laughing and joking and he is the one getting upset that your timing is inappropriate, then you are not going to like hanging out with a fuddy-
If you have already got a guy and you are considering spending the rest of your life with him, start watching his laughter. Decide if the things you see are what you want in a lifetime companion. If you do not have a man, imagine sitting at the kitchen table over coffee and hearing his laughter at something witty you have just said. How would it sound? How would it feel to be in his presence when he was laughing? Look for a man whose laughter heals you rather than grates on your nerves. And make sure you both laugh together and often. It will get you both through the tough times.
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